Is Sex Safe During Pregnancy?
Mental roadblocks, can’t get comfortable, afraid you’re going to hurt the baby… in this article we share tips on how to have a safe (and fun!) sex life when you’re pregnant.
Just because you’re pregnant doesn’t mean sex is off the table.
In fact, with the extra blood flow to your uterus and so many hormones like oxytocin surging during pregnancy, sex can be even better (especially when had ON a table…)
While many women admit they have zero desire or way too much morning sickness for sex and opt for abstinence for those long nine months, plenty of people want to do it, but are simply afraid of hurting their baby or unsure of which position is the most comfortable.
In an effort to keep your sex life alive and well – we’ve gathered tips, tricks and information from our Tot Mamas as well as health professionals that will help you feel at ease when it comes to having sex while pregnant.
Tip #1 – Bust the myth
Myth: “Having sex will hurt the baby.”
Busted: As long as you don’t have any complications such as issues with your placenta, your baby is well and truly protected in your uterus by surrounding muscle and amniotic fluid.
According to the Mayo Clinic, the only times you need to be careful or avoid penetration is:
- You have unexplained vaginal bleeding
- You’re leaking amniotic fluid
- Your cervix begins to open prematurely
- You have placenta previa
- You have a history of preterm labor or premature birth
- Multiple fetuses
- Your partner has a sexually transmitted disease or is not monogamous
Want to feel more at ease? Speak to your doctor at your next appointment.
Tip #2 – Help your partner (and yourself) get over mental roadblocks
Some men find it difficult to get over the fact that a baby is only inches away from their penis, while some women can’t get over the fact that they’re going to climax with a baby inside of them.
Here’s the thing – sex is a fantastic way to connect with your partner and your baby has no idea what’s going on.
If you’re having issues getting in the mood – make a night of it. Start with dinner, watch a sexy movie and then share a lukewarm bath. Maybe make foreplay last a bit longer so that when you finally do have penetration, you’re good to go.
Tip #3 – Get comfortable
As your belly grows and your hips begin to take on more weight, getting comfortable can become an uphill battle. Everyone will be different, but we recommend the following positions.
Spooning – This is when you and you partner lie on your sides and they enter you from behind and manually stimulate you with their hand.
On top – By being on top, you can control the depth and pressure. It’s also a sure fire way to get clitoral stimulation.
On the edge of a couch or bed – This is especially great when your belly gets large and you don’t want anyone on top of you. Try it on your back or on your side.
On all fours aka Doggy Style – This is another great option for women with bigger bellies.
It’s also important to note that many women experience light cramping after experiencing an orgasm while pregnant. This is normal and not something that should cause alarm.
Tip #4 – Stay connected
Sex doesn’t have to be purely through penetration. If it’s too painful, too uncomfortable (or frankly too weird for you,) try oral sex or simply cuddling, and kissing.
Being able to share those intimate moments with your partner is crucial. It’s also a great time to bond before baby makes three!
Tip #5 – Do it yourself
If you don’t have a partner or have an unwilling participant, don’t be afraid to do it yourself. Whether you want to use your hand or a vibrator – this can be a safe way for you to have that orgasm you totally want and deserve.
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