Being Mama: Nasiba Adilova

When former Buro 24/7 Business Development Manager, Nasiba Adilova, was pregnant, all she wanted was one website with all of the mama and baby information she needed. When she couldn’t find one, she built her own. Along with Miroslava Duma, Nasiba created The Tot – and in the lead up to Mother’s Day, she shares her Being Mama story.

Stephanie Drenka

“I actually found out I was pregnant when I was with Mira – she knew before my husband! I didn’t think I was, I thought I was just feeling a bit nauseous. But she made me take a test and when we saw the results, she said, ‘What did I tell you?!’ From that moment, my life changed. I became so much more health-conscious. I suddenly felt this tremendous responsibility for someone else’s life. I spent hours and hours doing research on what was best for me and baby.”

“But it was overwhelming. Everything I was interested in was in different places. There was no central location where I could find all of the information I wanted. And then I started building my baby shower registry. I wanted a few different things but there was no website that allowed me to build one that I was totally happy with. Basically I ended up doing it on Amazon, because I looked at all the brands and brands that I wanted, and then I searched for them and found them there. It took hours and hours. It was such a tedious process to go through. Items would arrive in really ugly, sometimes damaged boxes, and things I’d ordered would even be missing! But once I’d finally compiled my wishlist, all of my friends were like, ‘Oh, that’s great, we want that list!’”

“Eventually it got to the point where I had done so much research, my friends were asking me for my birth plan! I thought, there is a niche here, there’s an opportunity. I wanted to put all my knowledge to work and build a place where moms can come and talk to each other, figure out problems and work together. I discussed my ideas with Mira and interestingly, she’d been thinking about doing the same thing. It all happened really quickly from there. We met with Kathy Kipriotis, an existing business partner of Mira’s from Buro24/7 and now CEO of The Tot, and here we are with the newly launched Tot Shop!”

“We always wanted The Tot to be a very positive place. We know how overwhelming parenting can be; we don’t want to make things harder for moms. I read this amazing book by Gowri Motha called The Gentle Birth Method. She’s worked with everyone from Kate Moss to Stella McCartney. Her whole ethos is about positivity, and seeing the beauty in the experience of motherhood, and embracing all of it. We wanted to bring that message to The Tot. Yes, it is challenging. Yes, it can be hard. But it’s also very beautiful, very humbling, very grounding.”

“When I was pregnant, my perspective on health really changed. I did a lot of research. I changed my beauty regimen to reflect a more holistic, organic approach. I got obsessed with figuring out where things came from. It got to the point where I was wearing organic underwear! I adjusted my whole life. You’re carrying a baby and really, you’re nursing that baby right from the moment pregnancy starts. So your diet needs to reflect that. You shouldn’t be putting crap into your body. For some reason our society thinks that if you’re pregnant, you can eat what you want. But whatever you eat, your baby eats! Do you really want your baby eating junk food? I really wanted to make sure I was eating well, getting a lot of nutrients and feeding both myself, and my body well.”

“Before Thomas’ birth, I did a lot of mantra reading and visualization. I was ready. However, my body wasn’t quite there yet. I wasn’t dilating properly. I did eight hours of laboring on my own and then I finally took an epidural as I still wasn’t dilating. I just couldn’t keep going. Even though I had done all of the studying and preparing, I knew that the most important thing was that I had to keep an open mind. This really helped me in the end because I needed some relief even though it’s something I hadn’t wanted originally.”

“The first moment I held Thomas, I cried and cried and cried. I was able to pick him up and pull him out. I put him on my chest and started nursing him straight away. Nothing in life can compare to that.”

“So far, the most surprising part of being a mom is the interaction and bond between Thomas and me. I felt the immense responsibility of raising him immediately. I now think of all the ways things can go wrong, which is just awful… but I think it’s a way for me to either avoid these situations if they ever arise or at least to work out how to fix them… I think to myself, ‘Right, I’d do this and this and this and we’ll be ok!’”

“For me, the best part of being a mom is getting to do it every single day. Seeing this wonderful little life grow in front of you, having this amazing responsibility, it’s just fantastic. I love seeing Thomas wake up in the morning and smile and say, ‘Mama!’ I think, ‘Oh, that’s me!’”